The Friend Who Only Shows Up When They Need Something

We kicked this episode off with the question everybody has quietly asked themselves at least once: do you keep the friend who only calls when they need a favor? Curtis came in with a pretty unbothered take — he's in control of what he gives, so the ask itself doesn't hurt him. It's the pattern that eventually seals the deal. Honade was more direct: if every single call comes with a request attached, that is not a friendship, that is a transaction, and she is not a vending machine.

Both of them landed on the idea that real friendship has to be earned through something more than just showing up in your DMs when the rent is due. They also got into whether the people you see every day at work even count as friends at all — and the answer might surprise people who think their work wife or work husband has their back.

Can You Stay Friends With Someone Who Slept With Your Ex — And Other Questions That Reveal Everything

Curtis and Honade tackled a whole lineup of friendship landmines: staying friends with someone who hooked up with your ex, whether men and women can genuinely be platonic, what to do when your partner hates your best friend, and whether you should tell a friend their partner is cheating. Every single one of these sparked a different level of disagreement between them.

On the men-and-women-as-friends question, Curtis was pretty blunt — if he is single and finds a woman attractive, he is taking his shot, full stop. Honade pushed back and tried to find the scenario where it could work, but even she admitted it gets complicated fast once a relationship is in the picture. They both agreed that if your partner has a close friend of the opposite sex, that friend probably needs to become your friend too — or at least someone your partner is not meeting up with solo.

Borrowing Money, Cutting People Off Quietly, and Protecting Your Peace

The bonus round is where things got personal. Borrowing money from friends — does it kill the friendship? Curtis said the only time it becomes a problem is when the money never comes back, and he shared a story about realizing he had basically been quietly bankrolling someone for months without meaning to. Honade kept it simple: if you ask to borrow it and you say you will return it on a specific day, and that day comes and goes with no word from you, the friendship is over.

They also went deep on whether you cut people off loudly or disappear quietly. Curtis is a silent exit guy — no resignation letter, no explanation, no two weeks notice. Honade said it depends on the history, but she has left quietly too. The conversation turned into something bigger about forgiveness versus reconciliation, protecting your energy, and why the people who drain you the most are often the ones who have been building a case against you for years without you knowing it.

“When I see your name on my phone and my anxiety goes up because I already know what you want, that tells me everything”

“You can forgive without reconciliation — reconciliation is what puts you back in the room with that person”

The debate