A Man Who Makes Everything About Him — Even Labor

Some people show you the pattern before you even ask for it: when things get hard, they don't rise to the moment, they make the moment about their own comfort. That's exactly what happened with Krissy's boyfriend the day she went into labor. Instead of stepping up in the delivery room, he complained about being cold and tired, slammed doors, told her to hurry up, and stressed her out badly enough that nurses threatened to remove him. He escalated so hard he actually got kicked out of the hospital after starting an argument with Krissy's best friend and threatening to fight everyone on the floor. His family swung by, stared at the baby, offered nothing, and left. He himself disappeared for hours after the birth, then ghosted his newborn daughter for weeks, ignoring Krissy's texts and photos until he finally agreed to come by. By the time he showed up, Krissy was already suspicious. She had no idea how right she was.

He Fell Asleep With the Phone Unlocked. She Took the Opening.

When he finally came over, he dozed off while putting the baby down — phone unlocked, sitting right there beside him. Krissy has zero apologies about what happened next: she picked it up and started scrolling. She found what she expected — messages showing he was playing both sides, telling another woman he was done with Krissy while still stringing Krissy along. His mom was in the thread too, talking sideways about the baby and pushing him to cut Krissy off financially while she was pregnant. Painful, ugly, and enough to be its own story. Then she opened Facebook Messenger and found a conversation with the brother of her old high school best friend that made the cheating irrelevant instantly. Her boyfriend was trying to buy a gun. And he'd told the seller exactly who it was for.

“The thought of murder shouldn't feel so pleasant.”

— the storyteller, reading a screenshot of her boyfriend's message to his mother

He Left the Evidence in Regular, Unencrypted Messenger

The screenshots Krissy shared lay it out in brutal detail. He messaged the seller asking about a firearm, sent a picture of it, confirmed the price, and told him to hold it — because, quoting directly, his baby mama's family was 'tripping' and making it hard to see the baby. In a separate message to his own mother, he admitted the thought of murder felt 'pleasant' and that he was considering giving up his parental rights. He also told the seller that once he explained everything Krissy had supposedly put him through, he'd 'want to throw the pistol for free.' None of this was vague or a bad joke — this was a man shopping for a weapon and naming his target in writing. And he did it all in standard, unencrypted, data-harvesting Facebook Messenger. No vanish mode, no burner account, nothing. The host reacting to the screenshots called him 'the world's dumbest criminal,' and we're not going to argue with that.

“My baby mama family tripping, making it hard to see my baby.”

— the storyteller, reading the message her boyfriend sent to the gun seller

She Documented Everything, Then Took It to Court — and to the Timeline

Krissy didn't freeze up. She screenshotted the messages, photographed the phone screen so the timestamps and context were unmistakable, then woke him up and told him she had everything she needed and to get out. She filed for a restraining order, bringing the gun messages as evidence alongside documentation of prior domestic violence incidents. The judge granted it immediately. Her ex, being the type to livestream everything, went live when he got served, playing the victim while his followers piled on calling Krissy bitter and vindictive. That backfired instantly. Krissy posted the screenshots publicly — the gun conversation, the price, the photo of the weapon, the message naming her and her family as the reason he 'needed' it. The narrative flipped overnight. The same people defending him went quiet, because there was nothing left to spin. The drama between them wasn't over, but she'd already protected herself legally and put the truth on the record where nobody could bury it.

“I never thought he'd stoop this low.”

— the storyteller, describing the moment she read the gun purchase messages

How it unfolded

  1. Labor Room Red FlagsKrissy's boyfriend complained, slammed doors, and was eventually kicked out of the hospital after fighting with her best friend during her labor.
  2. Postpartum GhostAfter the birth, he went missing for hours, then avoided his newborn daughter for weeks while ignoring Krissy's attempts to co-parent.
  3. The Unlocked PhoneHe fell asleep at Krissy's place while putting the baby down, leaving his phone unlocked — and she immediately started going through it.
  4. The DiscoveryInside Facebook Messenger, Krissy found messages where her boyfriend was actively trying to purchase a gun and told the seller it was for his baby mama and her family.
  5. She Documented EverythingKrissy screenshotted and photographed every message, woke him up, told him she had everything, and kicked him out.
  6. Legal Protection SecuredShe filed for a restraining order using the gun messages and prior domestic violence evidence, which a judge approved immediately.
  7. The Public RecordAfter he went live on social media playing the victim, Krissy posted all the screenshots publicly, flipping the narrative and making sure the truth was documented.

Our take

The gap between Krissy being here to tell this story and not being here was razor-thin, and that's what makes our stomach drop every time we replay it. She almost didn't pick up that phone. He almost didn't fall asleep holding it. The seller could have easily suggested vanish mode instead of leaving a paper trail. Flip any one of those and this either never comes to light or comes to light too late. What Krissy did once she saw those messages was about as smart as it gets — she documented everything, moved fast, got a restraining order, and made sure the public record existed before he could spin the story his way. But the detail we keep circling back to is that she admitted she hadn't been prioritizing her own safety, even with a prior domestic violence history already sitting there. We're not saying that as judgment — that's how it goes, you normalize things, you minimize, you keep moving forward. It's just proof that the instinct you almost talk yourself out of can be the one that saves your life. We're genuinely relieved she's still here to tell it.

A phone check born out of relationship suspicion accidentally uncovered a murder plot — and Krissy's fast instinct to screenshot everything and go straight to the courts likely saved her life and her daughter's. Trust the instinct, document everything, and never underestimate how much people will write down in Facebook Messenger.

Questions people ask

Can you use phone screenshots as evidence for a restraining order?

Yes. In many jurisdictions, screenshots of threatening messages can be submitted as evidence in restraining order hearings, especially alongside other documentation like police reports or medical records from prior domestic violence incidents. Krissy did exactly this, and the judge granted her order immediately.

What should you do if you find evidence someone is planning to harm you?

Document the evidence first — screenshot, photograph, or otherwise preserve it without alerting the person. Then contact law enforcement and, where possible, an attorney or domestic violence advocate. Don't confront the person until you have a safety plan in place.